Guess what?! Sex is not taboo anymore – sorry!!
So why are so many people still afraid of discussing sex with their partner?
I mean, eh, come on!! It’s 2018 (isn’t it?!)
So discussing sex can be embarrassing and difficult at the best of times, regardless of where you are in the world. But it really shouldn’t be!
There are some countries where the subject seems an everyday topic. Holland springs to mind – where sex education is a fundamental part of the school curriculum – funny eh?! And Italy of course – ciao bella!
Religious education seems to have played a big part of this – you know the idea that sex is somehow wrong, or that we should be ashamed of it. And yet it’s almost impossible to avoid – even the Bishops are at it!
Overcoming this early bias can be hard – but it’s time to slip free of it. Here’s a little guide to help you take control (or not :), explore your body and really enjoy your sex life.
1. How to introduce sex toys in your relationship
The best place to start is with your partner! He or she will be surprisingly open to talking about it, if you can just broach the subject. Remember: EVERYONE would like to talk about it! You can try this:
“Hey did you see that new intelligent condom – crazy isn’t it! Maybe we should try it!” Then you can do a bit of browsing together and accidentally come across this great site and check out some toys….”oh baby I’d like to try THAT!!”
It’s a great way to introduce something new and get to talking openly about what you want. And of course, it helps if you can back it up with some science! So here’s some facts:
Women tend to take longer to climax – and can do it a bit more often. Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on your point of view!) penetrative sex isn’t always the easiest way to achieve this – some extra stimulation is needed. That’s where toys can help. Some women prefer longer foreplay and others opt for accelerating the process, but either way, a little help can have amazing results.
2. Exploring Your Body with Toys
Try exploring with some toys first and see what makes you tick! Here’s a selection of the most popular types which are guaranteed to please. Although they’re ideal to explore your body alone, they can also be used together with your partner – twice the fun!
Form 3 Waterproof Rechargeable Vibrator
This award winner vibrator designed to fit perfectly in your hand and allow your fingers to take control. This design is slim, made of silicon and body-safe. It has 3 pleasure settings to enjoy alone or together. The best thing is that it’s waterproof, meaning you can enjoy all benefits in the bath!
Lelo – Oral Sex Simulator
This premium personal massager is 100% waterproof & rechargeable. Melt into feelings of pure oral pleasure with the first ever sensual massager to offer long, seductive swirls and intense pulsations on and around the clitoris. Giving women the same waves of ecstasy enjoyed during oral sex, choose from 10 varied stimulation patterns as ORA leaves your body trembling, quivering and yearning for more.
Perhaps the only problem you can have using this toy, is that apparently it will give you better oral sex than your partner 😱 (well you can have a competition to see who’s best 🙂
Fifty Shades of Grey – Darker oh My rabbit vibrator
Part of the Fifty Shades Darker – The Official Pleasure Collection brings us this waterproof ‘Oh My’ rabbit vibrator. Coupling pinpoint clitoral stimulation with exquisite internal intensity, the Oh My rabbit creates thrilling blended sensations for spellbinding ecstasy. A sculpted shaft shadows your body’s contours, and it has a curved taper to escalate G-spot pressure.
“The feeling is so exquisite. What I’ve been waiting for after all his teasing. Oh, the fullness, this feeling… I groan and arch my back off the table.” – Anastasia Steele …. Oh My!!!
3. Spice up your sex life
OK so you’ve done this, chatted with your partner and now it’s a straightforward segue into fantasy land!! Sometimes you reach the point where you feel comfortable to tell your partner your desires and fantasies quite soon, but for many it can still be an awkward subject.
Maybe you have a wonderful sex life and would like to make it even better. Or you just don’t want to get stuck in a boring routine. No matter which, all couples have to work hard to keep the flame alive.
Thankfully there are numerous activities out there that can be done to help your sex life.
We gave you some ideas above on how to introduce toys and fantasy. Obviously listening to your husband/partner’s desires is a good start and there are plenty of ways to break the ice. Of course you can always go for gold and just ask what they’d really like if they could do anything :. Friday night fantasy night perhaps?!! What a great way to get through the week with a great big, hairy, em, event at the end!
It doesn’t matter how many times you had sex with your partner, it can be hard to know what they like most – SO ASK !!!
You could sit down together and dream up a fantasy. Or you could each write down your favourite fantasy and share it with one another over a glass of wine.
Couples that are happy to discuss the subject of sex are the ones that have most fun together. It’s a natural way to enjoy a relationship with lots of laughs, flirting and intimacy.
As they say in BDSM land – the couple who flay together, stay together! Woof!!
4. Now that you’ve had some fun what’s next?
So maybe you’ve been doing the same things over and over, and over and over… or under..:)
When this happens it’s the right time for a little innovation…
There is no doubt that improving physical pleasure can enhance sexual enjoyment. But a common misunderstanding is thinking that using sex toys means that you or your partner is not good in bed. Nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact its all about using your already amazing abilities, and getting to an even higher level!
For example, foreplay is such an important part of good sex, but sometimes it’s hard knowing what to do. Introducing some toys creates those moments of intimacy and expectation which winds you both up in advance and gets you really really hot! Try adding a cock ring or vibrator to tease your partner – creating a heightened state of arousal, and ultimately a more pleasurable sexual experience.
So to wrap up on a high – here are two of our favourite couples sex toys for your sexual inspiration and bedroom adventures. Woof!!
Feel closer together when your partner is away. Technology has been improved over the last years and also made couples life better even when your partner is temporarily away. We-VIBE is the most powerful couple vibrator made of body-safe silicone ever created. The best app-connected sex can be controlled through a smartphone app from miles away. Its compact, body-hugging form is designed to deliver simultaneous pleasure to the G-spot and the clitoris. You can have sex in your favourite position and enjoy the vibe.
Talking dirty on the phone or even having a little self-stimulation are great, but this takes it to a whole new level! You’ll be just dying to try it the next time you’re apart!
RIANNE S – DUO VIBE
Make your sexual activity more creative with your partner than ever. Fun for two with vibrator for her and masturbator for him, with the circle part around his penis the long vibrator part in her. It’s packs a strong vibration, and it is made of lovely, silky silicon.
This was just a small peek at our range to give you some ideas to spice up your sex life. You can check out all the toys here, and find whole new ways to drive your partner crazy (apart from eating crisps in bed :).
Research has shown sex is good for the heart, decreases stress and helps keep you in shape. And not only are sex toys a limitless source of fun, they can also form the basis of a strong and lasting relationship.
So go ahead and try – you know you want to 🙂
” I don’t know the question, but sex, is definitely the answer” (Woody Allen)